Bismillah and assalamualaikum guys !
Okay dah lama tak tulis kat blog, sebab sort of busy with study and so on. Mari bersihkan habuk habuk kat sini *poof poof !*
Today I want to talk about *drumroll!* LOVE ! There are many kinds of love, love towards our Creator, towards our family, friends, animals and so on but love yang selalu orang lupa (including me 🥴), is SELF LOVE !
To be honest, I feel guilty to myself because I know I am lacking of self love and because I lack of it, I hurt someone feelings 😕 And I decide to go on a journey of self love, in shaa allah.
So what is self love? (I asked some of my friends about their opinion of self love.)
- “Self love to me is like treating myself like another person. I give her credit where its due, I criticise her when she makes mistakes and feel proud of her when she does well.”
- Sister Aida azlin said in on of her videos “Self love for me is about getting to know ourselves through how Allah wants us to know ourselves, and not how the society wants us to view, or judge ourselves. Because Allah SWT is telling us that we are created in the best of form. (95:4) but the society, on the other hand, is telling us that we are not beautiful enough, that we are not perfect enough, that we are never (fill in the blank) enough” you can watch her video through this link ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0ej3CTvmJc )
- “When we prioritise ourselves first. It suits in many different situations. contoh bila kita insecure ke or apa apa ke and then ramai cakap bad things about kita. kita takleh la terima apa dorang cakap then sedih, kena la lawan. nanti diri yang sakit. then lain situation pulak is when we are in love with someone, janganlah sampai sakit kan diri like sedih ke overthink ke sebab kan kita nak happykan or jaga partner kita.”
- “Self love is to live a happy life with confidence.”
Why do we need self love?
- Someone i know told me that, because at the end of the day you only have ‘you’. If you don’t have self love, it means you’re not accepting yourself and it leads to insecurities, trust issues, anxieties and all. You need to have self love before loving anyone else, because others might not like you the way you are, but you.. only YOU !
- when you have self love, we will treat others like how we want to be treated.
- with self love, kita akan belajar untuk appreaciate anything yang kita ada sekarang, and tak compare diri kita dengan orang lain (in a negetive way). Setiap orang yang Allah cipta ada kelebihan tersendiri, and kita semua ni saling melengkapi.
- when you have self love, you know when you need to let go of something that bring negetive impact to you even when you don’t want to.
- when you have self love, you will love yourself 100%, so when someone layan kita 80% je kita takkan terima, why ? because kita akan cari orang yang sayang kita lebih dari 100%. (know you are valueble).
- when you have self love you will allow yourself to rest, to live your life fully !
- when you have self love….. banyakkkk lah lagi benda boleh dilistkan.
Embrace your flaws, say positive things to yourself everyday, build up your relationship with Alllah, be grateful, take good care of your body,mind and emotion and many more ways you can do to treat yourself better.
Self love, will always be a journey for me because there are a lot of things I need to improve everyday.
Oscar Wilde once said, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
Which means, it’s a not a destination – it’s an everyday practice.
And in the vein of extending that kindness to myself, I constantly need reminding that yes, I am deeply flawed in many ways, but that is what makes me human, and I deserve love anyway.
Be your own cheerleader 💛
I would like to leave a quote ;
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” -Mahatma Gandhi
May Allah ease our journey to love ourselves for Him, amin.
In shaa allah next time I will write about how to love ourselves 😉
Dear Sofia 